Chances are you’ve spent more time planning the financial side of retirement than imagining what you want your life to feel like in this next chapter. And while that’s understandable, it’s also where many women get stuck.
If you’ve been feeling both excited and uncertain about what’s next, you’re not alone. Most women I meet are surprised by how emotional this transition can be.
So many myths about retirement keep women from creating a chapter that’s joyful, purposeful, and energizing. So buckle up, ladies. It’s myth-slaying time!
You have the chance to live one of the most rewarding chapters of your life: retirement. These are your go-go years – the window of health and freedom you won’t always have – so make them count. The kids are grown, the schedule is your own, and it’s time to savor it. We’re not in dress rehearsal anymore. It’s showtime.
Myth #1: The Only Retirement Planning You Need to Do Is Financial
Not true! In fact, my heart races just writing about this.
Google “retirement planning,” and nearly everything’s about money. Important, yes – but it’s only half the story. This narrow focus leaves many women – especially those juggling work, family, and caregiving – feeling adrift once the emails stop and the calendar clears.
After all that, shouldn’t we have more information about how to design a meaningful life after retirement – not just how to afford it?
Research backs this up. A Canadian study found that only lifestyle planning – not financial planning – predicted satisfaction in retirement. The happiest retirees set goals for meaningful activities and nurturing social connections.
For the two years leading up to my retirement, I kept a running note on my phone called “Elaine’s Retirement.” It wasn’t a budget or a checklist – more like a vision board in list form.
Still, it’s no wonder we start with finances. For decades, we’ve been praised for being practical – so it’s easy to reach for spreadsheets before soul work.
The Truth:
Money matters, but it’s not enough. To create a retirement that’s vibrant, joyful, and fulfilling, you also need to design the life you want to live.
Here are a few questions to help you get started:
- How will I find a new sense of purpose and fulfillment after my career ends?
- What new activities or hobbies can I explore to bring joy and connection?
- How can I build and maintain strong friendships once I’m no longer in the workplace?
Myth #2: Retirement Means You Don’t Need to Structure Your Days
This one may be surprising. After years of early alarms and packed schedules, it’s tempting to toss the clock and live in your own version of a carefree, unscheduled heaven – and for a while, that feels amazing, until it doesn’t.
Talk to women retired a few years, and you’ll hear it: most crave a little structure.
Research backs this up. Routines reduce anxiety, build stability, and make the transition to retirement easier. Freedom without form eventually starts to feel like drifting.
I’m still finding my groove. I love not setting an alarm, but I need a loose plan – a few exercise classes, weekend walks with friends, and other small anchors that keep my week balanced.
The science is clear: structure protects your joy. Routines help us feel grounded and connected. The sweet spot is balance – enough structure for rhythm, enough freedom for spontaneity.
The Truth:
A little structure goes a long way. You don’t need a rigid schedule – just a rhythm that keeps you engaged in what matters most.
Try this: If your days feel flat or scattered, add one meaningful anchor – a class, a morning walk, or a standing coffee date. See how it shifts your energy.
Myth #3: You’re Too Old to Reinvent Yourself
It’s easy to see why we feel this way. Few stories highlight women reinventing themselves later in life – we rarely see movies or books about older women exploring new passions.
But I know plenty of women doing just that. I met a retired physician from Northern California who, two years into retirement, decided to go back to school to become a veterinarian – in Ireland, at 59! My former boss took up watercolor painting after a long career as an epidemiologist – proof that curiosity doesn’t retire when we do.
Spread these stories! Otherwise, we risk living with a dangerous misconception that our ship has sailed. When we share what’s possible, we remind each other that growth doesn’t have an expiration date.
The Truth:
Having a sense of purpose, meaning, and accomplishment is vital at any age. Reinvention doesn’t have to mean moving abroad or making dramatic changes. It can be as simple as giving yourself permission to explore something new or finally returning to a long-buried dream.
Reflection: If you gave yourself permission to reinvent – even in small ways – what might you try first?
Why It’s Misleading to Believe These Three Myths
Believing these myths can keep you from enjoying the retirement you’ve worked so hard to create. They shrink what’s possible at precisely the moment life is inviting you to expand.
I’ve worked with women who’ve taken the time to reconnect with what they love, face the fears holding them back, and design lives that feel deeply fulfilling. There’s nothing mysterious about it – just courage, curiosity, and a willingness to grow.
Yes – reinvention absolutely matters. It’s how we stay curious, engaged, and connected to what makes life meaningful long after our careers end. In fact, how you define and express yourself now may be the most important work of your life.
Retirement isn’t the end of your story – it’s the chapter you get to write on your terms.
So many readers loved the first version of my Who Am I Now? guide that I expanded it – adding new insights, exercises, and coaching tools from my work with women in this transition. It helps you explore the very questions this article raises: what gives life meaning after work, how to shape your days around what matters most, and how to keep growing through reinvention.
It’s free, and you can download it here.
You’re not lost — you’re becoming.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What’s one way you’ve reinvented yourself – or are thinking about reinventing yourself – in this next chapter of life?